(NEXSTAR) – We’re all close to someone who pretends they don’t need – and don’t want – anything for Christmas.
“Don’t buy anything from me,” these people often say. “I already have everything I need.”
It should be noted, however, that these people are fully aware that you will buy them a gift regardless of what they say, and despite their lack of input.
But instead of guessing at random (and maybe wasting your money on an unwanted tie or scented candle), there are plenty of safe gift options for people who say they don’t want gifts, according to the expert. in Lizzie Post label.
“If they’re really disappointed with the idea of physical gifts, maybe talk about an adventure or an activity you can do together,” says Post, co-chair of the Emily Post Institute and great-grand-grand- daughter of his namesake. “Something experimental.”
In other words, take your parents to a play or buy tickets to a local car show for you and a friend. Is there a restaurant this person wanted to try? A movie they plan to see? Get out your diaries and set a date for the new year.
“Just talking about it together helps these people recognize that it’s a time of year that’s important to [both of you] to log in.”
If all else fails and you’re still not sure what to buy, there’s always an option that rarely disappoints.
“Consumables, man. Consumables,” says Post, who suggests food or wine or even a pizza night, with takeout at one of their favorite spots.
Post, meanwhile, has some words for people who insist they don’t want anything from you this Christmas.
“Please stop saying, ‘No, don’t bring me anything. Because people are going to want to do something, especially those in your family unit,” she insists. “People in your life just want to have that special sense of togetherness.”